It’s Pisces Season, but there is also a lot of fire in the sky, which to me, feels helpful for keeping things balanced and not too wrapped up in fantasy and illusion.
Venus just made the switch from Pisces, which was deeply fluid, romantic and fantastical to Aries - a totally different vibe. From watery endings, into flashy beginnings - Venus in Aries might put a little pep in your step.
When I think of Venus in Aries, I want to know about your relationship with self. What do you do that is special, just for you? In contrast, where have you lived in service to others and bypassed your own needs, wants or desires?
Venus has returned to the place it was when I was born (called the Venus return), and for someone who has this placement in my chart, in my 7th house of relationships, it has taught me how to find myself, my sense of self, when partnering with others.
In my younger years, I jumped into partnerships fast and furious, followed my impulses(not just the healthy ones) and was aggressive in my pursuit of what (and who) I wanted. Act first, figure it out later. Except it often ended as quick as it began, often up in flames or I just got bored and jumped ship.
As the first sign of the zodiac, Aries is baby, its ego and self awareness, it expresses our need to be independent. I see the Aries/Libra polarity (Venus rules Libra) as the concepts of Independence / Codependency and how we find Interdependence. Now we have the opportunity to play with these dynamics - where are we fiercely forging our own path? Where are we still waiting for someone else to come do it for us? This is not the time for passivity - but to take the bull by the horns and get out there and do the thing.
In my experience, I had to really swing back and forth between these polarities before I could find any sense of middle ground. In so many ways I was independent - I dreamt of leaving home in middle school to move to New York City, I got a job in an industry with absolutely no knowledge, degrees or skills in that area, I starting working when I was 14 and excelled at school so I could earn scholarships and gtfo of my small town. On my own - I was all good.
But then in relationship, not.so.much. In relationship I lost myself. I’m actually not sure if I ever really “had myself” to begin with. I was both boundary- less and merging while at the same time being guarded and distant. Please love me but I won’t let you but please do!
So many spiritual traditions tell us to dissolve the ego and speak of “ego death”. They tell us we must love ourselves BEFORE we can possibly learn to love someone else. They tell us that God is love and the only special relationship we need is with Holy Spirit or Universe or whatever.
Call me an Aries, but I rather like my ego. She has had my back since day 1 and no other bitch has been as faithful to me as she. Yeah, we have had our dark nights of the soul, but without her I wouldn’t get much done. And I found love LONG before I learned to really love myself, and part of what really helped me get there, was learning to love another, was seeing myself through the eyes of someone else, was having a mirror held up to myself showing me all my gaping wounds but also all my ferocious strengths and tenderness.
That Aries part of me, she really wants to be special. She wants to be a special person and wants other people to see her that way too. And I have done so so many things to get people to love me, to see me, to validate me. And in the process I’ve felt ignored, invisible, angry and bitter. And I also learned what I needed, and how to see myself, validate myself, give myself what I was asking others to give to me. Through their perceived neglect I was able to face that needy part head on.
Venus as The Empress teaches us embodiment, abundance and receptivity. Aries as The Emperor teaches us stability, strength and inner power. Together they balance masculine and feminine, the yin/ yang, the shiva /shakti, the soft and tender held with boundaries. Let Venus in Aries be a rebirth in your connections with self and others - more balance, ease, passion, whatever you desire!
The next few weeks offer an invitation to look at any wounds around our identity, our inner child, our relationship with self and our ability to project ourselves out into the world. It’s an excellent time to do something just for you, something you enjoy - not to share on social or with friends, but just for you. It’s an excellent time to take action and make the first move, even if you get turned down, then you can move on to the next thing instead of waiting and wondering. But remember to be patient, try to finish what you started, and take a break if things get too hot ❤️🔥
Happenings:
✨ Hudson Valley! I am super excited to be offering some local, IRL workshops at a beautiful new studio, Moonlight Sanctuary, in Red Hook. Join me for a Full Moon Ceremony, Spring Equinox Gathering and Intro to Tarot!
✨ Reiki Master Training (Levels 3 + 4) is happening in March - if you are ready to pass on this magic to others and learn to give attunements - this is for you!
✨ March is a HUGE month astrologically! Big changes are underway and I’m excited to share the energy report with you, and think about how to make the most of this energy or what expression you would like to focus on. Upgrade to paid membership for the breakdown coming next week!
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Seven of Swords + Knowledge
This week wants you to question the source of the information you receive. Is this true knowledge or fear based thinking?
I spoke about the seven of swords back in this post, and the themes of the sevens are coming through already. The illusion of this seven comes from the mind- we are stuck in “compare and despair” or imposter syndrome - we think the grass is greener on the other side, but our view is so, so limited.
At the root of the issue, is truth, but here we are tempted by lies. Whether you are lying to yourself about your own capabilities, falling for societal stories about how you are supposed to “do things” or simply hiding your own light due to fear of failure, embarrassment or just being disliked, this is NOT your truth.
Knowledge wants us to find some more evidence. You’ve made it this far, so I bet you can find some great evidence of your own resilience, ability to succeed, your own strength and goodness and wisdom. Knowledge wants you to know that you have wisdom to pass along to others.
This week, call on your courage, your inner power and your confidence to go out there and do the thing. Detox those external (and internal) voices that tell you that you don’t have what it takes. Remember we are all just messy humans, doing our best. Put some trust in yourself, write out your strengths, what you love about yourself, a letter to your scared inner child, listen to music that pumps you up and fake it till you make it! Don’t do it perfectly, don’t attach to the outcome, just take the next right step.